Anne-Marie Southcombe

Module 1 - November

Detach & Let Go

EFJ – Self Paced Course – Module 1

Observe the cycles in your life and how you are affected by them: day and night, menstrual cycle, moon cycle, general daily cycle.

Practices & Ritual

Practice included in the live call.

Recommendation:  Spend 5 minutes tuning into the 1st energy centre everyday. Can be done standing, sitting or lying down.

  • Make yourself comfortable.
  • Close your eyes.
  • Let the weight of the body soften, release and relax downwards.
  • Feel the contact your body is making with the ground or whatever you are sitting, standing or lying on.
  • Take a few breaths.
  • With each breath, invite the body to soften a little bit more, dropping weight down into the ground.
  • Bring your attention to the perineum or the tail bone.
  • Visualise a beautiful ball of energy here.
  • What colour is this ball of energy?
  • How does it feel?
  • Imagine a cord of connection running from your tailbone down into the ground, deep down into the earth.
  • Notice what comes to mind
  • Allow yourself to feel safe, secure, stable and relaxed.
  • Feel the support of the earth.
  • Allow yourself to trust the earth.
  • Trust the ground underneath your body.
  • You were born here. You belong here. The earth is your home
  • Keep breathing.
  • Keep tuning into this part of the body and simply notice how your feel.

The Year in Review

  • What went well, what did you accomplish, what was a cause of happiness or celebration for you in the last year?
  • What were your biggest disappointments or the challenges of the last year?

What did you learn about yourself?

  • Look at your list of accomplishments first and ask yourself: What have I learned? 

  • Look at your list of disappointments and ask: What can you learn from these disappointments? What didn’t work? Why didn’t it work? What’s the lesson? What have I learned about myself?

Guidelines for the future

  • Look back over the lessons you learned.  Choose three lessons and turn them into guidelines for moving through this coming year

Ritual for Letting go

  • Take a piece of paper.
  • Light a candle.
  • Close your eyes and take a few moments to settle and relax
  • Feel your feet on the ground.
  • Take a few breaths.
  • Think about what you’d like to let go of.
  • Is there a particular situation, person, behaviour, pattern, way of thinking or being, that is no longer serving you?
  • What needs to die in order for you to shine brightly?
  • Feel the energy of it
  • Then write down on your page what you wish to let go of or release.
  • Fold the page and hold it cupped in both your hands
  • Set the intention to release this energy and to create space for ease and joy to flow into your life.
  • Blow your intention into your paper 3 times.
  • Then burn the page or you can bury it in the ground.
  • Give thanks.
  • Blow out your candle.

Module 1 - Content

We are now in the season of Samhain (pronounced sow-in. Sow as in a female pig)

Samhain begins on the 1st November. The festival was traditionally celebrated over three days. They were considered to be three days out of time. The festival is still celebrated today in the form of Halloween on 31st October and the Christian feast days of All Saints Day on 1st November, and All Souls Day 2nd November. 

During Samhain, it is believed that the veil between the worlds is thin and the souls of our ancestors can roam freely among us. This is a time of honouring our ancestors.

Samhain is also the gateway into the feminine half of the year, a time of non-doing, meditation, rest and sleep. This is also known as the dark half of the year.

All life starts in the darkness

Think of a seed germinating in the soil or a baby conceived in the mothers womb. 

Samhain holds the energy of endings and beginnings. As one year ends, another begins. We can honour the energies of Samhain by acknowledging that every ending brings opportunity for a fresh new start. Likewise, every beginning has its end too.

  • Location: Tailbone, perineum area
  • Element: Earth
  • Sense: smell
  • Relates to: survival, support, stability, safety, releasing & receiving, sense of belonging, our basic needs, family, tribe and our roots / ancestors.
  • Strength: Groundedness, tribal / family identity, bonding, honour code, the support and loyalty, sense of safety and connection to the physical world.
  • Fears: Fears of physical survival, abandonment by the group, loss of physical order
  • Physical areas of the body: Fascia, legs, feet, base of spine, rectum/large intestine, immune system
  • Physical issues that may arise from imbalance: Obesity, anorexia, addiction, sciatica, constipation, hemorrhoids, shingles, herpes complex
  • Psychological issues that may arise from imbalance: depression, psychological disease.

If issues arise relating to any of the above, we may feel ungrounded, anxious, fearful, unsafe, disconnected, insecure or abandoned. When we feel safe the body and mind start to relax and we feel more grounded and connected.

When we are born we need our family, tribe or caregivers to provide our every basic need in order to survive.  As we grow up we must learn how to fend for ourselves and cater to our basic needs. 

See practice instructions in the practice & ritual section